018: Does Balance Really Exist?

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Is there a such thing as a balanced life? Honestly, I’ve been in conversation with many women lately about balance in their lives and how to balance everything. I initially wanted to talk to you all about having a more balanced life, but, as my month went on and all the things I had going on – I started to think. Is there a such thing as a balanced life?

What is a balanced life? We have these thoughts on what life is supposed to be and all of the things we are supposed to or want to be doing. I’ve been called every woman and all kinds of things that sound great on the surface – BUT, in reality it’s just too much to be all that. I’m going to let it go. So there’s no such thing as work-life balance.

There’s work, and there’s life, and there’s no balance,” said Sandberg

For many, living a balanced life is being able to have time and do all of the things they want and need to do. Quite frankly, being the ambitious women that we are I’m not so sure it’s possible. What I do think is important is aligning your life with the things that are truly important to you.

What I do think is possible is focusing on a few things that are priorities and being happy with those things and progress in those areas then moving on to the next priority. It seems like when you focus on one or two things there are other things that will fall to the back or just not get as much time or attention.

Recently, I’ve been juggling between my family life, my full time job, this podcast, and a start up I co-founded and busy would be an understatement. The thing is I’ve never felt more alive and excited, BUT, I’ve also start feeling EXHAUSTED and OVERWHELMED. I was trying to continue to give all of my time to everything as normal and still focus on my priorities as the time. Needless to say the things I gave most of my attention to where the things that flourished. For example, I wasn’t able to pull the weight I normally pull at home with the family – thank goodness my husband was their to pick up my slack. So, let’s talk about some things we can do when we are trying to have it all, but, there are just not enough hours or energy in the day.

So let’s talk about a few ways to know if you need to slow down 1. Listen to your body. How are you feeling, does your body feel tired or exhausted? 2. Are you forgetting things? Left your keys somewhere? Or maybe missed a meeting or forgot to pack lunch? 3. Extremely tired? As soon as you sit down, you are done. You may even fall asleep.

Let’s talk about ways to improve 1. Get focused on your priorities and what you need to do first to make the greatest impact. 2. Ask for help, so many times as women, we don’t want to ask for help. I know that this is me all day – I think I can do everything. But, the truth is we all need help sometime. Learn to ask – sometimes people will surprise you. We can’t do everything alone. 3. Say no – look everything you are doing right now is probably not in line with your goals or the impact you are trying to make. Figure out what’s moving you forward and what’s holding you back. If it’s not leading you were you want to go or aligned with your current priorities’ learn to be okay with saying no. Also, if you are receiving last minute requests – you may have to say no to those as well, if they are going to throw your day, your week or your month off balance. Try to stick to the goals you have mapped out. 4. Practice self care - after all this is the best care right. Sometimes, you need to tune out of everything and take a moment for yourself – whether it’s a couple of hours at the coffee shop, the spa, or taking a walk at the park. Schedule some time to just focus on refreshing yourself.

What about you – have you struggled with trying to do everything and just being exhausted? How did you make it through? What are some tips you have for someone going through this?

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017: Stacey Flowers International Speaker and Author

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Stacey Flowers is a TED speaker, business strategist, and author who will make you happy! Flowers has successfully navigated the world both as a professional and serial entrepreneur publishing her first book: Pregnant With Purpose in 2012 , followed by The Happy Factor and God Wants You to Be Happy.

She has experience in corporate consulting and motivating all ages. Her hope is to teach people to live beyond preconceptions, boundaries, and limiting beliefs. Stacey has engaged a variety of audiences on more than a dozen life topics. Her sessions include a diversity of subjects focused on driving success, discovering personal leadership, and expanding your capacity to influence. Her personal mission is to infect the world with happiness. In addition to her speaking circuit Stacey presently consults with colleges and universities on postsecondary educational resources for underrepresented groups.

This episode is for you if you are trying to shift your perspective, you're trying to find your voice or you are trying to bounce back after hitting a low point in business or life.

Topics discussed in this episode include:

  • Experiencing a great deal of trauma early in life

  • The power of having someone stand in agreement with you

  • Being tested so God can prove to you that you can do it

  • Needing a cheerleader in life not just doing the bad times, but, also in good times to keep you on course

  • Getting comfortable with your journey and the mistakes you've made

  • Learning the practice and art of receiving

Stacey's most:

Impactful Read:

Book of Proverbs in the Bible

You can heal your life by Louise L. Hay

Advice Received: Everything is going to be okay.

What is making a mark to Stacey?

Making a mark for me is me completely and fulling helping other people to step into their happiness – which would mean ushering them in a space where they are able to unleash their God given talent to positively influence the world.

You can find Stacey at her website: www.staceyflowers.com

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